"The Yellow Wall Paper"

Reading "The Yellow Wall Paper", it is hard to know what exactly is going on with this woman and her relationship with John. On just reading the story, I understand that she just had a child and she is dealing with post par tum depression. By her having a husband as a physician, we as readers just assume that she has post par tum depression and it is being taken care of by him. Being a woman, I get frustrated with this story because of the different feelings and view points that are dealt with. It seems to me that the story can brew up three different view points maybe even more. If you were a woman with children, having gone through the potential of post par tum and understanding the actual feelings of separation,depression,and nervousness would look at this story differently from lets say a woman with no children but still with that kind of emotion of motherhood intended. From a mans view can get foggy. Just because they are not women doesn't mean the feelings aren't there it's just a different catogory of feelings. They didn't have a human growing inside of them for nine months and feel that connection with the baby. When the child is born the mother feels like the connection is lost and those are the type of feelings men won't ever feel. Lets face it, men don't clearly understand women; just like women don't clearly understand men. Throwing a newborn in the mix only makes it more of a struggle to understand the level of emotions the new mother is going through. From discussion, I got the feeling that all the men in class are thinking the main character is just plain out crazy and weird, and John is doing nothing but keeping her from going more insane. Now, making that assumption rules out any possibility that maybe the husband is crazy or he is messing around with Mary. Having the husband be a physician, we just assumed that he knew what we was doing. From page 368 paragraph 45, "John does not know how much I really suffer. He knows there is no reason to suffer, and that satisfies him." She is feeling that he doesn't understand what she is going through, but shouldn't he understand due to the fact that he is a doctor?Another sentence that makes me wonder is on page 369 paragraph 51. "At first he meant to repaper the room, but afterwards he said that I was letting it get the better of me, and that nothing was worse for a nervous patient than to give way to such fancies." Wouldn't you think that as a caring and loving husband he would've made the room comfortable so she would rest easy and get well faster? Instead he leaves it like it is making her more nervous. To me it seems like John is making her believe she is crazy. For all we know of it, he could be having an affair with Mary. To me, I can't quite pinpoint why she has to be in the worst room in the house (bars on the windows, bolted down bed...) and she can't write down thoughts of feelings. Johns believes that she shouldn't write because it will bring more nervous feelings aboard. She attempts at writing down some thoughts but only writes a few for the fact that she is so nervous of getting caught.